Release Your Anger: Strategies for Dealing With the Kids

Have you ever found yourself getting angry with your kids? It can be a difficult situation to deal with, but there are steps that you can take to release anger and get back on track. In this blog post, we will cover parenting strategies for dealing with kids. We will also provide tips for parenting in a healthy way by releasing anger appropriately and responsibly.

Tips for anger management

If you are finding it hard to keep your cool when dealing with kids, here are some techniques for releasing the anger:

Let it go in one of two ways – either do an activity like running or hitting a pillow, or take deep breaths and count back from ten slowly while visualising yourself being calm again.

Take time away from kids by taking care of yourself – create space between the angry outburst and then deal with this issue after some time has passed.

Allow children more autonomy than usual, so they feel like they are in control.

Find parenting support – talk to other parents, read parenting books or find a parenting coach.

Try not to take out your anger on others – even if parenting is not going well, it will get better with time. Do a little every day and be patient.

Avoid making a scene in front of other people and children –  remember that parenting is not a popularity contest. Focus on what you can control, not what you cannot.

Focus on the positives – children are great teachers of patience because they won’t let you do anything for them until they’re good and ready to learn. And when things don’t go their way, most kids look at you expecting your help – which can feel pretty darn rewarding!

These techniques can help anyone who struggles with managing their anger from time to time, but parenting is a high-stress job, and it’s important to look out for your own mental health. So, if you’re parenting on your own, find support from other parents who can offer different perspectives.

When anger arises because children are pushing their boundaries – either by being cheeky, refusing to listen when told what needs doing or not following instructions – walk away until they’ve calmed down before continuing with these approaches:

• Brush off those moments as funny (instead of reacting angrily).
• Laugh at jokes –  be prepared for their jokes to be terrible at first, but the more you laugh with them and not get annoyed by everything they say or do, the better they will become.
• Take a break from parenting and do something that makes you happy.
• If triggered again, try deep breathing exercises or use a coping statement.
• Use your parenting mantra (“I’m doing the best job I can”) as an affirmation and to help you better manage anger.

Angry children

Different parenting approaches are needed at different stages of parenting:

The toddler years – it’s easier to give in during this stage because we want our children not just to stop screaming but also to calm down and learn from their mistakes. 

For preschoolers, try a more hands-on approach by giving them an explanation of why you ask them to do something or by explaining what is going on around them. This helps us be less frustrated with the child when things don’t go according to plan. Another strategy is to use specific words which explain how uncomfortable certain behaviours make others feel. For example: “It makes me angry when you take my toys away!”

For school-aged kids, anger management strategies must be employed to prevent fighting and aggressive behaviour. Try to head off common triggers for anger by having a plan of action in place. For instance, if you’re parenting two kids with different personalities, have an idea of how each one will react to anger and what might trigger their emotions.

For teen-aged kids, anger management strategies are necessary to avoid future outbursts. Stay cool and calm when parenting teens by recognising that their emotions will be more intense than those of younger children.

Is my child annoying me on purpose?

One of the most common parenting questions is “is my child annoying me on purpose?” Asking this question can help adults recognise that children don’t have a lot of self-control yet, and so they may be acting in ways to get attention. As we grow up, our natural instinct is to protect ourselves from anything that causes us pain – including people who make us feel bad! As adults, it’s easy to understand why kids may lash out. You may have noticed your child’s anger when they are pushed away by their sibling or made fun of at school. When parenting children, it is important to recognise the emotion and try not to react negatively with anger in return.

How does an angry parent affect a child?

It can be hard for a child to understand why you’re angry, and they may start feeling like it’s their fault. A child is also more likely to feel guilty if the parent isn’t able to calm down, which will lead them into experiencing the anger of their own in return. When parenting children, it is important not only that you are aware of your emotions but also that you teach your kids how to handle theirs as well. It’s never easy when your kid lashes out – especially with words or actions – so recognising what causes this behaviour and responding accordingly before releasing some peace-keeping energy inside of yourself will help everyone stay on neutral ground!

The child’s point of view:

A child can’t fully understand their parent’s anger. They may take on that same emotion and lash out, or they can try to appease it by becoming more difficult themselves in an effort for you to be happy again. The most effective parenting strategy when dealing with a misbehaving kids is not getting angry, but coming up with a solution together. This way, your kid learns how to deal with their feelings as well as yours!

Is it normal to get angry at your child?

Yes, parenting is one of the most difficult jobs in the world, and it has its ups and downs. You are never too old to learn new parenting tips or tricks, so don’t be afraid to ask for help! We are all just humans, and parenting comes with a lot of emotions! The key is not getting stuck there but finding strategies that will release the anger so you can stay in control.

We’ve covered a lot of ground in this blog post, and hopefully, by now you have some new strategies about dealing with your kids when they anger you. While it may be difficult at times, remember that it is important for both them and you to release the angry feelings in a healthy way. As long as we’re following these simple guidelines, we should all come out on top! 

Also, letting your anger go can increase the chances of living a stress-free life as a parent.